This is pure bigotry.

http://www.latimes.com/news/local/orange/la-me-twodads2jan02,1,4298214,print.story?coll=la-editions-orange

Enrollment of Gays’ Sons Roils O.C. Catholic School
By Joel Rubin and William Lobdell
Times Staff Writers

January 2, 2005

In a clash that pits Catholic teachings against shifting values of American society, a group of parishioners and parents has accused Orange County church leaders of defying Pope John Paul II by allowing a gay couple to enroll their two boys in a diocese school.

Eighteen people signed a letter last month demanding that St. John the Baptist School in Costa Mesa accept only families that sign a pledge to live by Catholic doctrine — a move that effectively would kick the boys out of school. The church regards homosexual acts as sinful, and in 2003 the pontiff condemned marriage and adoption by same-sex couples.

“This is not a radical or mean-spirited approach to Catholic education,” read the letter. “It is a straightforward assurance to any prospective parent that their child will be taught the fullness of Roman Catholic doctrine.”

But Father Martin Benzoni, who oversees the 550-student elementary and middle school, last week rejected the group’s demands. He released a new policy stating that a child’s education comes first and that a family’s background “does not constitute an absolute obstacle to enrollment in the school.”

Benzoni acknowledged the conflict between the two-father family and the teachings of the church, but said that the boys — both kindergarteners, adopted by a pair of Costa Mesa men — had been baptized in the faith and deserved a Catholic education.

“I firmly believe that this policy is in line with the teaching of the Catholic Church,” said Benzoni, who is a member of the conservative Norbertine order that runs the school and parish for the diocese.

Dismayed by the decision, some parents said they plan to ask the Vatican for help, while others said they may pull their children from the school.

“The teachings of the church seem to have been abandoned,” said parent John R. Nixon. “We send our children to a Catholic school … because we expect and demand that the teachings of our church will be … adhered to. If our Catholic school is no longer teaching and living Catholic doctrine, we might as well send our children to public schools.”

The leader of one conservative Catholic organization agreed, contending that unless the boys leave, the school must either fail to teach Catholic marriage values or subject the brothers to humiliation.

“There’s no way those kids cannot be hurt in a Catholic school if that school teaches the faith,” said Stephen G. Brady, president of the Roman Catholic Faithful, based in Illinois.

“Is the church going to teach them that their parents are going to hell for the lifestyle they are living?”

But several other conservative and liberal Catholic leaders backed the school, saying that regardless of the church’s views on homosexuality and same-sex unions, it would be wrong to punish the children.

“To single out these kids because of their gay parents would be invidious,” said William Donohue, president of the conservative Catholic League. “You cannot burden the innocent.”

The fathers of the two boys declined to be interviewed.

Parents said they have grown increasingly upset since the men enrolled their children at the start of this school year. Anger built as the two men were both listed as fathers in the school directory and one volunteered as a teacher’s aide in class.

The protesting parents said that the school is violating a church teaching on same-sex unions released by Pope John Paul II in 2003.

The pontiff encouraged Catholics to vigorously protest domestic partnerships and, “above all, to avoid exposing young people to erroneous ideas about sexuality and marriage that would deprive them of their necessary defenses and contribute to the spread of the phenomenon.”

They also say the school is sacrificing the religious education of other children in the boys’ class.

“If I was a teacher in that classroom, I would not say anything to make those children question their caregivers,” said Paul Krieger, whose daughter attends St. John the Baptist. “Which means I would not be teaching the faith. I would be kind to two children and relinquish my duties to the other 30 in the classroom.”

Krieger and others also voiced concern that by allowing the two boys to remain at the school, church and school officials are setting a precedent that could eventually lead to liberalization of the church’s teachings on sexuality.

Many of the angry parents portrayed the debate as part of a broader campaign by gay and lesbian Catholics to gain greater acceptance within the church. “The boys are being used as pawns by these men to [further] their agenda,” said Monica Sii, who has four children at St. John’s.

Michael Joseph Sundstedt, a Newport Beach attorney advising the group of parents, said they want families enrolling their children in St. John the Baptist to sign a “parental moral covenant” agreeing to abide by Catholic teachings. While unusual in Catholic schools, similar declarations are required by many Protestant Christian schools.

The two fathers might sign the declaration even though they could not abide by it — “that’s between them and their maker,” Sundstedt said. “But I strongly suspect that those parents wouldn’t sign the agreement.”

But Father Gerald M. Horan, superintendent of schools run by the Diocese of Orange, rejected the idea of a parental covenant. If the school barred gay parents from enrolling their children, they would also have to ban children of parents who violate other church teachings, including those who are divorced, use birth control or weren’t married in the church, he said.

“This is the quagmire that [the parents’] position represents,” Horan said. “It’s a slippery slope to go down.”

It’s unclear how many parents at the school are aware of the debate or how many object to the boys’ enrollment. But one mother said she and several other parents support the school’s decision.

“It’s a shame that a minority of loonies chooses to hate instead of love,” said Katie Flores, whose daughter is a classmate of the boys. “Let he [who is] without sin cast the first stone.”

The controversy brings into focus the gulf between the views of American Catholics — many of whom, for instance, support abortion rights and birth control — and key teachings of the church.

Father Jim Schexnayder, head of a national network of Catholic ministries that encourages the participation of gays in the church, said he knew of a handful of similar cases throughout the country in which parents complained when gay couples enrolled their children.

And a lesbian couple in Oregon has sued a Catholic school, claiming their daughter was rejected because of their lifestyle.

“While the church has teachings on [homosexuality], people do not have the right to judgment or presumption,” he said. “These are opportunities for teaching and understanding and compassion, not for condemnation.”

But the parents at St. John the Baptist said they won’t give up the fight — even if they withdraw their children from the school.

“We’re taking a stand for the faith,” said parent Ken Stashik. “This is much larger than what’s going on in a small Catholic school in a small town.”

Said his wife, Jackie: “In 20 or 30 years, when they ask, ‘When did Catholic schools change, when did they stop teaching the faith?,’ I will be able to say September 2004. And I can say I did nothing or I stood up.”

9 thoughts on “This is pure bigotry.

  1. Does this mean I’ll be getting more spam from a random nutcase saying that they weren’t welcome in COSTA MESA and there was SOME FORM OF ABUSE!?? oh noes!~
    It’s ridiculous to not allow someone to go to school because of their parents. Are we back in the 1960s? Do we need to build seperate bathrooms & waterfountains?

  2. The faith

    Said his wife, Jackie: “In 20 or 30 years, when they ask, ‘When did Catholic schools change, when did they stop teaching the faith?,’ I will be able to say September 2004. And I can say I did nothing or I stood up.”

    That weird church should abandon any pretense of being spiritual or metaphysical, and instead simply adopt, as symbols of their “faith”: a map of Italy with the Pope-King’s picture inset; an American flag wrapped around a corpse or two; and graphic of an infinite downward spiral.

  3. “above all, to avoid exposing young people to erroneous ideas about sexuality and marriage that would deprive them of their necessary defenses and contribute to the spread of the phenomenon.”
    Well, the Lord knows that if we don’t give someone the idea that they could possibly fall in love with a person of the same sex, it won’t happen. We should probably continue to be very carful with the spread of any ideas. From here on out, I think home schooling would be the answer, and we should begin burning books as well. Which book should we start with? There are some bad people doing some bad stuff in that Bible book. That book has been putting ideas in peoples heads for thousands of years. Millions upon millions of people have been slain in wars that have been created as a result of the ideas that are shared in this “good” book. Yep, that’s it. Burn the Bible.

  4. Actually, I find this incredibly heartening. When was the last time you saw a member of a conservative Catholic brotherhood defending gay rights? Things sure have changed.

  5. Not bigotry!
    If Gays do not accept the church teaching, then they should not try to put themselves in these situations just for publicity. You don’t agree with the church, then don’t attend their churches or their schools. Put your “children” in public school and let them grow up like you. This isn’t about principle, it’s about the right way of life. You know that Catholics, Jews, and Muslims follow God, which means that homosexuality is a sin. If you want to continue living in sin, then don’t go to institutions that follow God and don’t complain when others point it out if you do go to them. It’s one thing to want to change your life for the better (ie. following God’s laws as stated in the Bible), but it’s another to try to change God’s laws to match your life so that you don’t feel guilty about it. Don’t do it, and you won’t think stuff like this is bigotry!

    1. Re: Not bigotry!
      The gay parents did not go to the press, they refused to make a comment. They want to raise the kids as Catholics in the church and send them to a great school. The fact is the 18 have tried since October to remove the children from school and were rejected by the school, the pastor, the dioscese as being misguided and not following the directions of the Pope. It was only after this that THEY went to the press and made this a public affair. Don’t blame these kids 2 loving fathers for trying to raise the children Catholic. According to the Church, it is their duty to do so.

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