nice things I got for which I am grateful

The aforementioned Alan Watts CDs which are all ripped to mp3 now!

The aforementioned Buddhist art books.

A 7 CD set of Jelly Roll Morton’s 1938 Library of Congress recordings. WOW.

A handheld food mill that purees small quantities of fruit or vegetables, etc.

A package each of concentrated chicken and beef stock.

An out-of-the-blue gift from Jeff, who is one of the numerous good friends I’ve never met.

Stumptown coffee and a beautifully handmade cup from vegemitelover, also totally unexpected.

A t-shirt my parents bought literally 15 years ago in Vancouver which has Haida native art on it, causing synchronicity wtf since I now host haidalanguage.org on my DSL box for torgo_x.

Dog; fritter; FRITTERSCAPE

Catherine has a new dog, Boca. Boca’s lower jaw protrudes to a degree that suggests she is a reptile rather than a dog. She is a very sweet animal.

boca

I made a fritter tonight out of leftover mashed potatoes and egg. I ate it, but first I took pictures of it. I have thought about this fritter all day and it was just as good as I had imagined it would be.

fritter

Because of my love for the fritter I also made a desktop image that is a cropped fritterscape.

fritterscape

If you want a fritterscape, click on it and you can get larger versions of it from flickr.

I sent a message to the LJ about how cool I think Martin Diedrich’s new coffee place, Kéan, is. But post by email blew today so you didn’t see that.

I really liked that fritter.

Have a safe dysfunctional obligation activity

This year I am once again grateful for my family’s behavior at holiday times. I grew up agnostic, so there was never any religious pressure. Christmas was a gift exchange and a couple of nice meals, and it still is. The most frequent verb I see this week is “survive”, as in “surviving the holidays” or “survived my family again”. There’s tremendous stress about food, gifts, the presence of difficult relatives, and every kind of parent/child conflict. People don’t eat the food their parents eat any more, or the gifts are too much or not enough money, or the gifts have been a form of warfare for 20 years, or Uncle Ted is a racist, or Dad always asks the boyfriend if he’s going to be anybody ever, or or or.

And more seriously some people I know go into a major PTSD mode during the “holidays” because their childhoods were so gothically horrible that memories of family togetherness are a symptom rather than a pleasant reverie.

It’s a big joke in our culture that holidays are a stressful mess and that everyone is miserable and drunk, etc. “Surviving the holidays” in every way is the goal. It’s linked in my mind with the “Safe” thing, e.g. “Have a safe holiday!”. It’s sort of assumed that you’ll hate the whole thing, drink like a fish and pop pills, and die in a 7-car pileup on some snowy turnpike, thereby causing what the newspapers inaccurately call a “tragedy”.

My family’s troubles are constant, ongoing, and subtle. We don’t have screaming matches or drunken rampages, no one hits anyone, and we don’t say nuclear weapon phrases like “I don’t love you”. We may undermine for years at a time, or be unreasonably irritable, or fail to connect in some dispiriting way. There are conflicts and painful situations that aren’t allowed to be mentioned or discussed.

But we don’t have “holiday” stress. Despite all my complaints about my psyche and my issues, I’m very grateful for my family 99% of the time. My heart goes out to everyone who has to Survive instead of relaxing around now.

Martin’s New Place

Kean Coffee, Martin’s new venture, is scheduled to have a “soft” (unadvertised) opening tomorrow. Mary’s managing the place, for those who remember the 17th St. Diedrich from 1997 or so.

Who’s going to be there tomorrow, and when? I was thinking I’d stop by in mid afternoon and/or late afternoon, maybe at 2 and/or 5.

Simulcast to

Annals of Education: The Spit Monster

I had an uneventful education. As a good student in a well-funded suburban district, I spent my primary school years dutifully studying and excelling without many distractions. Problems with other kids were limited to schoolyard bullying which in retrospect was very mild.

Kindergarten started easily. I’d been to preschool and didn’t have the adjustment issues some other kids did; it was just another school. I was no good at cut and paste and had a hell of a time getting all the numbers up to 20 in a row, but otherwise it was fun and easy. It was the time, however, that I faced my worst adversary in 12 years of education…

The Spit Monster.

I forget the kid’s name; let’s call him Greg. He was a round kid with a round face and a bowl cut. He always wore horizontally striped shirts and looked like one of the Peanuts kids, probably Linus. He was as they said then “hyperactive” and was always getting into trouble. Once when a girl fell off the monkey bars and broke her arm, it was suspected that he’d pushed her.

One day Greg decided that he was a new supervillain: The Spit Monster. The Spit Monster ran around the playground playing a one-way game of tag in which he spit on people. He tried to spit in the face but would settle for the back or side of the head. His reign of terror began at morning break one day and lasted approximately 5 minutes. After spitting on five or six kids, the Spit Monster found me cowering behind the merry go round and cornered me in perfect position. I didn’t get my hands up in time and he got me full in the face.

I nearly barfed. Not sure why I didn’t; I have a notoriously quick gag reflex. Gathering my composure a bit, I ran into the classroom and complained to a teacher.

The Spit Monster was immediately arrested. He was unrepentant, saying only “I’m the SPIT MONSTER!” when asked what he was doing. Due to the seriousness of the crime and lack of remorse of the criminal, he was told to go to the principal’s office, no doubt for summary execution. He marched off in style, head held high.

That was the end of the story for me, but for the Monster himself it was only the beginning. Because the Spit Monster was not going to any punk-ass principal’s office. He knew that he needed to appeal to a higher authority: his mother.

The trouble here is that his mother was not at home. He knew where she worked, though, at the mall. There was only one thing to do. Like Frodo Baggins, he had the burden of a quest, and he rose to the challenge. Stopping by his house down the street, he got on his tricycle and headed across town.

For an idea of the scale of the Monster’s journey, here’s the Google Maps directions. Five miles is a long way on a tricycle, and there are hills involved. Leaving at maybe 10:30 a.m., he arrived in mid afternoon at his mother’s job and announced himself and his mission; he required justice.

Needless to say there was a huge shitstorm. A new policy was instituted in which children being sent to the principal were accompanied, and more attention was paid to entry and exit from the school. The question of how many people must have seen him pedaling furiously down sidewalks for five miles and let it slide was worrying, too.

But the Spit Monster never returned. We just got Greg, and as far as I can remember he never bugged anyone again after that. He didn’t have to. We all knew that he was a Luciferian antihero, a bandit rebel, and the best playground supervillain ever. Today I salute the Spit Monster again, despite nearly barfing. Ride on!

The War on Christmas Continues!

Among an assortment of nice gifts I got a 12 CD set of Alan Watts and two books on Buddhist Art.

I used to listen to Alan Watts late at night on KPFK when I was a kid. He’s probably not the most sophisticated or accurate guide to Asian spirituality, but he’s both entertaining and instructive for me. And I can look at Buddhist art all day long.

HEADING EAST NOW!

mysplaw

I found all kinds of old punks and local nonsense on myspace. Good: stuff about the Cuckoo’s Nest. Bad: an entire myspace group for the Del Taco at Newport & 17th where the straight edge kids brawl.

I won’t even get into the Teen Landmark Forum or the group for the Mormon Temple. I also failed to join various Party Elites, so I won’t be experiencing chill events, happening parties, and hitting the most awesome bars on select nights.