32 responses to “little prick”

  1. pauldeman2pt0

    :(

    I am sorry that you were subjected to hearing that kind of racist bullshit.

    For the record, though: I think you handled the situation far better than most people would’ve, given the same set of circumstances.

  2. eris_devotee

    This is the exact reason I hated the suburbs, and why I feel so much… safer… within Chicago city limits.

    When I moved to the burbs and went to the swanky high school, my first day of attendance I heard the following:
    How do you babysit a nigger?
    Velcro the ceiling and teach it to jump on the bed.

    There were black boys close enough to hear the joke, and my city-girl self slowly backed away – because I was *certain* a fight was about to break out. Nothing happened and I looked over at the black boys. They looked at me, then at the floor, with a “not in these parts, blondie”. and while it couldn’t have broken me as much as it had just broken them, it set the tone for the remainder of my time in hell.

  3. anaisdjuna

    Interesting. I’m from the part of the country where lynching jokes do have consequences, and sadly from where some people would have thought that was funny & given him a wink.

    You did the right thing by making him feel the stupid that he is. If you’d gotten all loud and stuff he would have had something to focus on other than the message… like anger or ego. This way you just made him feel like a clueless pup.

    1. tinymammoth

      I’m going to agree with this, I think this is the best way to handle this situation.

      Ugh.

  4. autodidactic

    like the spike lee movie says

    Always do the right thing. (Which you did.)

    White kids these days think racism ended when MLK got shot and then resurrected on the third day. Which, of course, gives them full reign to tell nigger jokes. Don’t ask me the logic behind that one.

    1. von_doom

      Thanks to Carlos Mencia and the like, it is a popular misconception that only racists are afraid to make racist jokes.

  5. maps_or_guitars

    You struck exactly the right tone, IMO. Well done.

    Not that it’ll change the little fuckwit’s mind or worldview in the least, but you’ll carry away the knowledge that you put yourself publicly on the right side of the line – without creating a different sort of problem.

  6. nosrialleon

    or better yet: “Keep that shit inside your brain, dude.”
    or better yet: don’t.

  7. salome_st_john

    I hate those situations. I think you handled it the best way you possibly could.

    Reminds me of sitting in various spots and hearing a guy tell a long string of Jew jokes, not realizing A REAL LIVE JEW was nearby, or having a group of kids ride their bikes by me yelling about how they got Jewed at the store just now. You do what you can.

    And to be honest, I don’t think it only happens in small towns and suburbia.

    1. kasheri

      My husband recently heard coworkers in his high-tech office say that about Mother’s Market. It made him so upset.

    2. torgo_x

      teh joo

      While I rarely manage to put the

      “http://torgo-x.livejournal.com/856197.html”
      >the full terawatt fear/shame beam
      on people,

      A lesser hilarity comes from:
      “Hey, I’m Jewish! Now you get to use complex etymology
      to explain why ‘jewed at the store’ has noooothing
      at all to do with Jews!”

      A greater hilarity would be a mix of
      disapproval and menace-at-a-distance. In Ignatz’s case,
      this would be:
      I care. And I bet my wife would care, because she’s
      black and grew up in the South! If she’s waiting in the car now, maybe I’ll tell her,
      she’ll flip out, maybe I’ll calm her down enough– but maybe
      and she’ll pop the trunk, get the tool kit, and PUT A FUCKING
      WRENCH THROUGH YOUR FOREHEAD. So, don’t move, you gotta wait here about two minutes
      to see how this plays out.”

      Easy swap-ins: step-dad, brother-in-law, etc.

  8. sakkaranoush

    I think you handled the situation as well as could be.

    I had a substitute teacher friend many years ago and with him in mind, I would call the kid’s utterances “stuff (he) hears at the dinner table every night”. I’d like to hope he didn’t know what he was saying but perhaps I’m being naive. : /

  9. kellyramsey

    Maybe if enough people do what you just did, shaming him without giving him an excuse to dismiss you. I don’t know, in the suburban environment people seem more likely to shut down and tune it out when a loud berating puts them on the defensive.

  10. mcpino

    I wonder if he’ll ever figure out that there’s a world outside Newport Beach where lynching jokes have consequences.

    One can only hope.

  11. hepkitten

    i like to respond with humor at their expense. ie “just want orange county needs, another dumb white kid that who thinks he is funny until he gets jumped by a gang of 20 latinos behind the supermarket one night.” Then again lately I just like calling white kids dumb to their faces and watching them get all confused.

  12. handstil

    I wish you punched him. There, I said it. Seriously, I have zero patience or tolerance for that bullshit and I’m not opposed to going to jail over it.

    In other news, my son is befriending the five african american students in the district and telling our landlord (who is also african-american) that “all my friends are dark-skinned (last night while he was fixing the garage door) so you must be fun!” LOL. There is hope, it’s just not wide-spread hope. :(

  13. kasheri

    I think that you handled this perfectly.

    And, to cast a better light on what happened, let me just say that I really applaud Door Kid. That’s a tough thing to say to a peer. In my trainings on sexual harassment and diversity, I tell supervisors that they have to remember that it is not their job to be popular. Sometimes a supervisor must be a wet blanket. It would have been better if he’d said that it was never okay, but it was a tough thing that he said anything at all and something to feel hopeful about.

  14. hotelsamurai

    I think you handled it well. If you had gotten in his face or escalated the exchange, it would have been easier to dismiss what you were saying. Instead, you responded at the volume he had established. Way to fight the good fight. You just improved the world a little bit.

  15. nightynight

    I probably would have said something like “can you repeat that? i didn’t hear you. it sounded like a bunch of racist jokes, but that’s not what you were doing, was it?”. No idea what effect that would have.

    I think people (even if they are dumb kids) need to be publicly shamed for this sort of behavior, and you did that. I like to think I am good at embarrassing people for this. I actually did this once at work for someone who was making racist statements (of all people) NORWEGIANS (I grew up in Garrison Keillor-land). The guy was the head of economic development for the city i grew up in, and I was a summer student programming/dealing with some databases. And I just put that asshole in his place with one sentence, and even better, everyone in the room laughed at him and were like ‘SLAM. SHE SO GOT YOU.’. He didn’t talk to me for the rest of the summer which was a secondary awesome outcome.

    Note: I am in no way suggesting Norwegians deal with the kind of racism that african-americans do.

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